Mikkelina’s Thoughts

Being that I can not focus on ONE thing alone, this blog is about everything that crosses my mind and my eyes that I find worth sharing

Why were the Warning Signs Ignored? April 18, 2007

Filed under: Life, Random Thoughts — mikkelina @ 2:13 pm

We have all been reading about it and seeing it on the news. A horrible day when a 23-year old student goes on a rampage and shoots 32 people, then shoots himself. This happened on a college campus. I work on a college campus. No one expects these kinds of things to happen on a College Campus. I do. I don’t expect it, but it doesn’t really surprise me. As everywhere in this world there are good people and there are bad people. There are well-balanced people and there are people who have problems. Some problems are minor and can be dealt with with the help of friends and family, the assistance of administrators and counselors. There are some people who have more serious problems. We’ve heard about them. Unfortunately we sometimes hear about them AFTER the facts. And then the same question always comes up: were there warning signs?

In this particular case, there were. His English professor Nikki Giovanni and the Chair of the English Department Lucinda Roy explain that they had concerns about him:

At one point, most of Giovanni’s students didn’t show up for her class, supposedly because they were afraid of Cho. As a result, the chairwoman of the English department, Lucinda Roy, agreed to teach Cho privately. The NYT says Roy was nervous about being alone with Cho that she set up a system so that her assistant would know if she was in trouble. Roy shared her concerns with university officials but they said that nothing could be done since there were no specific threats.

THIS is what concerns me and I think that those of you who read this and work in schools and colleges know what I mean. I have heard this sentence before. I won’t go into details, but I wonder if this is the policy in all schools and colleges. If it is, it is wrong and needs some serious looking at. Of course one doesn’t want to constantly be alarmist and create false accusations or fears. But if there are clear warning signs, if one finds that a fellow student or co-worker shows signs of mental imbalance, one reports it and nothing is done because “there are no specific threats” there is something seriously wrong with the system. It angers me. I have been through it and I have been asked this question: Do you feel threatened? I said the wrong thing. I said no because it is not an easy question to answer. I should have said: Not right now, but I can imagine feeling threatened at some point. Because I and others said no, the case is dropped.

I repeat it. There is something wrong with the system. Yes, we are a country of overexaggerated fears. But let’s look at what is right around us. Really look and listen. I am saddened at how little people take responsibility for what is around them. We are so ego-centered that we don’t care about what happens around us. But what bothers me more is that when we ARE concerned and we take the right steps (as that professor and chair did) a STOP sign is thrown at us and we are told that nothing can be done because there are no specific threats.

It is VERY frustrating and something needs to be done about this.

 

Site recommendation: Rad, Buddy! April 16, 2007

Filed under: Site Recommendations — mikkelina @ 4:08 pm

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Rad, Buddy!

My buddy Chris came up with this clever idea:
Radbuddy.com features reviews and articles about stuff that are written by your friends; and friends of friends; and maybe eventually friends of friends of friends. We’ll see how it goes. All reviews are original and written exclusively for Rad, Buddy. There is no auto-generated content. Everything on Rad, Buddy is original material. No spam.

Since its opening this past February, there have been tons of great idea, recommendations for places to visit (both local and far-away), things to do with or without children, links to interesting/wacky sites and comments left by friends or friends of friends.

I like the simple look of the site, it’s super easy to navigate, you feel like commenting, and if you want, you can post your own recommendations. Just contact them and they’ll set you up. I find myself going to the site fairly regularly to see what’s new, to comment and sometimes leave my own recommendations.

Check them out at www.radbuddy.com

 

Barack Obama on the David Letterman Show April 15, 2007

Filed under: US Politics & Policy — mikkelina @ 3:15 pm

In case you missed it, watch Barack Obama on the Letterman Show.

He’s so eloquent, clear, sophisticated, intelligent, full of hope, funny, and in my opinion looks very presidential (oh and he’s pretty good lookin’ too!)

 

Going to a Bead Show today! April 14, 2007

Filed under: Art, Random Thoughts — mikkelina @ 3:22 pm

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I’m excited, I’m nervous…I know myself. I will NOT be able to control myself and I will spend way more money than I intended to. Why pretend that I can control myself? I can’t. Simple. I just see myself now. Walking around with a list (ha! a list!!) in hand, looking for just what’s on the list. I’m cracking up just reading what I am typing. yeah, so the list in hand:
“ok, just look at what you NEED”
“oh shoot, look at these colors, oh man! they have copper stuff…” look around, turn around, left, right, back…walk, Michele, walk…
I know it’s going to be hard because my friend went the other day and titled her email to me: Beads! Wonderful beads! (thanks! Mary!)

let’s see how I do. I promise I will be honest.

Oh and in case any of you want to know where the bead show is, go to this website:

The Bead Expo

It’s at the Oakland Marriott.

5 or 6 hours later…
I’m so happy with my new beads!
But before I go into that, my patience was tested this morning by none other than myself.
I’m ready to leave. I decide to take BART because 1. it’s raining 2. I feel like reading on the bus and bart 3. parking is supposedly not so easy where the Marriott hotel is. so I take the car out of the garage to park it on the street (so that Eduardo can park his truck in the garage when he gets home from work). I realize that I forgot my umbrella and go back inside to get it. That’s fine. I take the bus to BART (takes about 15 minutes). I walk to bart, go down to the machine to buy my ticket and reach into my bag for my wallet. No wallet. Heh? I search, I search…no wallet. Damn it! I forgot it at home! Money, credit cards…I have absolutely no choice. I begin to curse quietly and try to think if there is another way out of this. No. There isn’t. So I keep cursing and go UP to the street, walk to the bus stop, take the bus (luckily it came immediately and it was the same bus driver. How embarassing, but he didn’t even notice…phew!) and go back home. On the bus, I calm down and finally (took a moment there) tell myself: what the hell are you upset about? Are you in a hurry? no. Is it a tragedy? no. ok, so relax and enjoy the ride. And I did.

Now to the beads. What a great expo! The best I’ve ever been to. A really great selection of beads and yes, even though I WAS a bit overwhelmed (at one point, I got dizzy cause I was so hungry), I was VERY careful and stayed well within the budget that I had set for myself. Such a good girl!
Here’s a picture of my new beads! Looks like I chose a certain pattern of colors. Can’t wait to use them. But first a good cup of coffee and a nap on the couch! Lazy me!

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click on the thumbnail for a larger view

the triagular beads on the left are made out of resin. She had so many cool colors and styles, it was too bad it was the last stand I visited. Here’s her link: Natural Touch

 

All over the place…as usual April 12, 2007

Filed under: Art, Life, Random Thoughts — mikkelina @ 4:05 pm

So this site started out with an obsession regarding the whole 9/11 conspiracy theories, then I started adding film recommendations, music, art, and now I’m obsessed with making jewelry. Making jewelry is not new. I’ve been making it on and off for about, what, 5 to 7 years? Can’t exactly remember when the bug hit me.
At about the same time I also started making Greeting Cards and yes, I had this big idea for my own business selling greeting cards. Well, I haven’t touched a greeting card in years! (but I still have them in boxes and i KNOW they will resurface!).
Oh and did I tell you that I LOVE to take photos? That I love to use photoshop? That I love to take videos (now that I have a better video camera)? At work they call me “the one brimming with creative ideas”. Mind you, I was never really the big creative one in the family. That was my brother Bernard. He was the one who had (and still has) amazing ideas and he was (and is still) a very talented designer. I can remember how he used to make these huge Asterix and Obelix drawings and then put them onto foamboards…well, he’s not my father, but I think these genes may have also rubbed off on me, albeit a bit later in life.

So what’s my problem? No problem. Really. Just qwetsching a bit about the way I am, which is ALL OVER THE PLACE. I’ve suffered for years from the frustration of getting so obsessed with one thing, getting everything I need for this one thing (yes, that means spending money!), dreaming this one thing…and then suddenly PLOUF. I drop it. Get tired of it. Leave it. I do NOTHING for months except watch too much tv. Or I suddenly get distracted by a new or resurfacing obsession and the cycle goes on. As I just wrote, I used to really suffer because of this: I’d get so upset with myself afterwards because I felt like I could never finish anything or follow through.

Ever heard of Barbara Sher? She’s written books like “Wishcraft: How to get what you really want” or “I could do anything if I only knew what it was”. I read, well, almost the entire books (forgot to tell you that I hardly ever finish books, especially non-fiction self-help/how-to books), but it wasn’t until she wrote her last book about scanners called “Refuse to Choose: A revolutionary program for doing everything you love”
What is a scanner, you ask? Here’s Amazon’s book description which explains what a scanner is:

With her popular career counseling sessions, motivational speeches, workshops, and television specials, Barbara Sher has become famous for her extraordinary ability to help people define and achieve their life goals. Now she tackles a problem that millions of people face today in a universe of infinite possibilities. Sher identifies someone she calls The Scannersomeone who frequently has a multiplicity of interests, but finds it hard to create a successful life he or she loves because their passions and abilities are taking them in so many different directions. Sher identifies 7 types of Scannersranging from the Serial Specialist (someone who learns all about one subject, only to get bored and need to move on to the next) to Sybil (a person with so many areas of interest, she cant finish a thing). Contrary to popular wisdom, Sher tells Scanners that theirs is a unique ability, not a liability. She also states that they must do everything they love, not zero in on one pursuit at the expense of all others. With dozens of powerful techniques Sher has developed to free people from goal paralysis, readers will stop thinking of themselves as dabblers or dilettantes, and find innovative ways to live lives of variety, challenge, and joy.

Yep! that’s me to a tee. And I’m guessing that some of you reading this right now are laughing, having a AHA moment, crying, screaming and saying: oh my God, that’s me too!

Well, in a way, finding out that it was OK to be all over the place was a relief (like I needed someone else to tell me so). It was more that by finding out about “scanners” I found out that there are millions of people who are like that. The opposite, by the way, she calls “divers” and we love them too, but they are the ones who make us scanners look like unfocused/ADD goofballs. Yes, a HUGE relief. And I see now that yes, things do resurface and yes, it IS a cycle with me.

This is why I’ve decided to continue my blog. It’s all over the place and I’m sorry if it frustrates those who read my blog (anyone out there read my blog?? please comment so I know you exist!), but it’s MY blog, gosh darn it! and I will expose my underbelly to you.

That’s it for today. Back to my jewelry!

 

Latest Bill Maher’s “New Rules” April 12, 2007

Filed under: Bill Maher — mikkelina @ 9:31 am